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My post on “What’s Wrong With Blacks” was recently commented on by “brotherpeacemaker”. Basically, he summed up my post as my congering up a vantage point that brothers who are doing less with their lives were looking me up and down because I had on slacks. Additionally, he said that maybe I was the one with the problem in that I didn’t understand that I did not have the right to look them up and down and judge them.

Well, gotta say your post on black unity is some what needed. I gather you don’t live in the south. I know what I see and I know what a mean mug is when I see it. Your post is par for the course with respects to the “black unity theme” of old. It needs a tune up.

In the same way that Barack Obama has commented on how blacks have to embrace responsibility, I’ll respond to your response.

When Bill Cosby came out years ago and criticized blacks in great detail on how they were squandering the progress that so many DIED FOR, I was in agreement with him. In brothapeacemakers post, he said that it’s easy for many of us black people who do well to “look down” on those who are not. Furthermore, he comments on a lot of my quotes with a perspective that “Why don’t I/people mention how there are white people with the exact scenarios that I mention as examples of our plight”

I think it’s fitting that these posts are tagged in victim mentality. My wife, who’s black by the way, has from time to time in the past accused me of displaying a victim mentality when something I KNOW HAS NEGATIVELY AFFECTED ME BECAUSE I WAS A BLACK MAN has happened to me. I identify very well with the topic.

I’ll start off by saying honestly, I don’t give a damn about white boys still living with their mothers and squandering their lives. I care enough about black young boys and girls that I have actually won Volunteer of the Year at the local Boys and Girls Club Teen Center here in Raleigh. Yea, by volunteering.

I remember a teenage black girl, after seeing me in the center after several days, asking me why I was there. Before I could answer, she followed the question with a quick quip, “What you gotta do community service?”. When I told her that I was just there as a volunteer, she put a bewildered look on her face that struck home with me. Bill, the teen center manager, would soon tell me that volunteers at the center are few and far between. One day while signing in on the volunteer log, I noticed that only I had signed in as a volunteer for the past several weeks that the log displayed. This spoke directly to what Bill had told me.

I know, I know. give me a hero cookie, right? The only reason I’m mentioning this is to qualify that I’m no hypocrite. BUT I SURELY DO HAVE A WAY OF VIEWING A LOT OF BLACK PEOPLE WHO CHIME IN ON THE TOPIC OF BLACK UNITY AS HYPOCRITES. What I find is that most of them will write something or take a position in conversations, like brothapeacemaker has, when the facts are that they themselves are all talk no action. LIKE THE BLACK CHURCH. LIKE MOST OF THE SO-CALLED BLACK LEADERS IN THE U.S. OVER THE PAST TWO TO THREE DECADES.

We just saw how Jesse Jackson’s “This nigga’s got the nerves to talk down to blacks” went over. The fact is, everyone needs someone in their lives to check them. Not coddle them. I will not coddle my people. As far as me doing well, I’m struggling to stay afloat like most. But I was fortunate to have been raised in a family in Gary, Indiana that, while not perfect, surely put the sense of no give up in my soul. In fact, having grown up in Gary, I was given examples daily on what giving up had in store for me. Didn’t want it and never will allow it to happen.

As far as me looking down on the brotha’s wearing the knee length white T’s that I accused of basically looking down on me. I’m guilty as charged. And I will continue to do so. But not in the way that you insinuate. In most of those white T’s, I see potential bankers, enterprenuers, land scapers, construction workers, accountants, group home owners, administrators, college freshmen, division II college basketball/football/baseball players (I say division two because it’s actually hard on average to make division I). Because the playing field in life is not level, most of them will not take these paths.

How do we level the playing field. I’m tired of asking white folk to alter their ways. One thing at 40 I have learned, especially through law enforcement, is that you can only change yourself. You have no control over anyone else but yourself. As a people, we don’t have any control over white people. The fact of the matter is that when your black, what that black male in the long white T does in society DOES AFFECT ME!. What the identical white male in a long white T does in society DOES NOT AFFECT OTHER WHITE MALES!

This is why I care brothapeacemaker. While working in the teen center, there were some rough looking young men in there. I mean, to the common white person (and even some blacks) they looked like thugs. I’M FROM A CITY THAT IS 95% OR MORE BLACK. These were the bay-bays and shine dogs that I grew up with when I was a young kid. I saw the kid in these teens. After they get to know you a little, the tough shield starts to dissipate and what’s really there is a teenage kid that has hopes and dreams that are constantly being challeged by OUR culture. Not by a white teacher that’s telling him or her that they can’t be a doctor or a lawyer like what happened to kids our age who went to predominately white schools. But by these fool rappers out here or ballers that their single mothers have dated who are constantly saying ‘your a sucker if you think gettin a job is gonna get money”!

Brothapeacemaker, this isn’t propaganda. This is reality. The facts are that blacks in this country have the greatest opportunity to succeed in life than any other black in the world. WE DON’T HAVE TIME FOR OLD WAYS OF CALLS TO UNITY. We need to realize that the poorest of the poor blacks in this country IS NOT EVEN POOR as far as WORLD standards go.

I just put myself in a self made recession funding a trip to China this past month for my daughter. The reasons for my wanting her to go differed from those of what others suggested in conversations I had with them about her going. Quite simply, I wanted her to see what real poverty was. She did not go for the Olympics. It was a language immersion trip so they went to provinces that were in the Chinese communities that aren’t fancied in mainstream media. And poverty she did see. The kind of poverty that I saw in the countryside of Korea or the Phillippines when I was stationed in Okinawa, Japan.

When you see people who don’t have running water, electricity, infrastructure. In the worst projects in this country, people have a refrigerator let alone running water and a frickin toilet to shit it. There is no open sewage to deal with in the projects( benjo ditches as they called them in Korea). This is why when a foreigner from a REAL poor thirdworld country steps foot on this soil, they have a hunger and an appreciation for the opportunity that has been presented them that push most them to excel at living a quality life. EVEN THOSE FROM AFRICA/Haiti/Jamaica!

But us? Now I’ll never say “get over slavery”. That to me is a call to arms like a Jew standing next to an anti-Semite. But I will say these minorities from these other countries that are coming here. THEY DON’T GIVE A SHIT. In fact, they see how we are still hung up on the victimized mentality of the situation that they say “good for me. I’ll take their spot”.

I truly believe that one day, the white race will ultimately pay for their sins of enslaving our ancestors. In the mean time, I gotta survive. Make sure my daughters thrive. THEY WILL NOT BE NEGATIVE STATISTICS in any matrix!

FOCUS MAN! We gotta get on our own so we can move ahead.

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I just browsed a post on “The Black Sentinel” titled “What is wrong with Blacks?” I thought I’d chime in on this topic.

After a life of ranting on the issue, at 40 I think I have a more mature, refined vantage point on what ails our people versus my rants of the past. This is just a short take on the topic.

For starters, it is apparent that we have lost a purpose as a people. During the civil rights movement as well as the 70’s, we had a purpose as a people to “OVERCOME” our oppression. I’ve read books that cite statements from white opponents of civil rights for blacks in this country that referred to the lack of “maturity amongst blacks” that could lead them to not be able to handle their freedoms. As I cringed every time I come across such a statement, it leads me to a perspective that Dr. Frances Cress Welsing conveyed in her book “The Isis Papers”. That an infant state of mind exists within the black community. Until we address this issue, Our plight is lost.

The way she mentioned how black men greet each other with “What up Boy” or calling their home the ‘crib” among other quotes really struck home with me. I met Dr. Welsing at Fisk University sometime back in 1994 and at the time I owned a record store. I remember observing my customers behavior in my store after my meeting her and being astonished at how accurate she was in this assesment.

Years later, I still believe this is a major issue within the black community. During the civil rights movement as well as throughout the 70’s, a sizable percentage of the black male population I believe had a mature mindset. Fast forward to today and this is not the case.

From Jay-Z’s 30’s are the new 20’s mindset, comes a plethora of “I aint ever growing up” based entertainment figures that have inspired a generation to sport long white T’s as a fashion statements that influences them to stare me up and down while we’re in line at Wal-Mart ridiculing me in their minds because I’ve got on slacks and a dress shirt.

They view me as sell-out. I got a damn mortgage. I gotta pay college tuition next year for my daughter. I’m doing what people died for, marched for during the 50’s and 60’s. And your looking down on me?

Lucky for me I know how to give the “don’t let the slacks fool you” look, just to keep em straight.

We no longer as a people have any sense of family or purpose. Hell I think these fools think that ballin is overcoming. YOUR DOING THE WORK OF YOUR OPPRESSOR YOU DUMB ASS. (Not that you’d be logged on to wordpress and reading this) Basically, our homes are broken.

The young black male today doesn’t see a future for themselves in any corporate structure within their community. The skilled labor jobs have gone to illegal aliens in their respective communities so if a guy wanted to do right, their just isn’t any path to doing right available for them. To that extent, I do understand. Being from Gary, I gotta understand this.

But it doesn’t help that Plies and these other ignorant ass rappers are constantly in these young brothers ears talkin bout, “get yo hustle on mane”.

One of my co-workers has worked long and hard as a single mother to raise her two children in a way so they could go to college. The son has constantly given her headaches. He just wants to chill and get women. She got him into school at Winston Salem St and he is close to flunking out.

Essentially, he’d rather work his job at the commissary on a military installation bagging groceries and getting tax free tips while living with mom rent free. His dad is a buster who really had no involvement in his upbringing.

The problem with this scenario is that there are much older black men who have the same mentality as this 20 year old. I won’t even go into how black women play into this. Let’s just say I have a constant daily interaction with their “I don’t give a shit bout a black guy” personality whenever I visit the gas station, Wal-mart, department store, or local restaurant. They are/have been affected by the broken home syndrome as much as the black male has.

Basically, we need to grow up as a people or we will be left behind.

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